Mr Polite 2:27 Tue Jan 12
The ever growing hobby of Grieving
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I know I'm not the only one, but I seem to be in an ever shrinking minority of people that find the way people grieve a bit stomach turning.
For clarity, I am not talking about death of a close friend or family member as i'm well aware that people will deal with that in many different ways.
I'm talking about either the death of someone you know of in passing or a famous person.
On the news the other night there was a lad who had died and a few from the local community were falling over themselves to say how much it affected them. One girl was clearly loving the camera saying how she couldn't sleep at night and didn't know what to do. She was attempting to make it all about her.
The famous person thing I get that people are sad of the passing of someone whose work they admired or enjoyed and that they'll miss that. I just think as a nation we have gone from the stiff upper lip which could be argued wasn't particularly healthy to the complete other end of the spectrum.
Take Bowie for instance. Whether you loved him or not it is impossible not to admit he was a huge star whose work was enjoyed by millions. It's a good thread as it gives good examples of people that are paying tribute to a talented bloke but also much like when news channels ask 'send us your tributes' it also has many people grieving and making it about them.
Here are a selection of comments from that thread:
Gutted by this news.
Prob the only time I have ever choked up over a celeb dying.
Playing Modern Love at the mo. Keep welling up. (same poster posted that twice)
When I heard the news this morning I felt sick, just sick.
finding it hard to cope with this news
No but feel sad and emotional and keep choking up as his songs are everywhere today.
Fucking hell, what a sad day. Just want it to be over.
RIP Devastated today
Too gutted yesterday to read anything on here, even took the day off work
RIP Bowie - A piece of me has died with you
I've not even had to do my usual thing of making any of those up.
This isn't a thread about Bowie, but more the way people seem to enjoy public displays of faux grief.
Has it always been that way, but now with social media we just see more of it? It is a typical British disease or is it a worldwide thing?
Either way - why not try to man up you fucking cunts.
Don't even get me started on flowers on the roadside...
Thanks for reading
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.`·.Mr Polite ♥
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BRANDED
4:56 Thu Jan 14
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I'll be crying all day at pike's post. I may never stop crying.
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Sven Roeder
4:54 Thu Jan 14
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Can a celeb die overnight or very early tomorrow morning please as I fancy taking the Friday off and getting a start on the weekend?
Thanks in advance
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Marston Hammer
4:44 Thu Jan 14
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geoffpikey 3:58 Thu Jan 14
if you lost a close relative would you tell everyone on facebook exactly how you're feeling? do you post up statuses marking the birthdays of dead grandparents, great aunts etc?
this is important geoff - if the answer to either of the questions is yes then i'm afraid we can't be friends.
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peroni
4:39 Thu Jan 14
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geoffpikey 3:58 Thu Jan 14
Sounds as if someone's a bit embarrassed about acting like a pussy.
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Nurse Ratched
4:29 Thu Jan 14
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Dan M.
I've left work for the day because I'm so distraught.
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Trevor B
4:09 Thu Jan 14
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geoff
again people are missing the point of polite's original post, its not about people expressing their sadness at someone's passing on social media. its the ott faux grief and attention seeking as you will have read in the op.
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geoffpikey
3:58 Thu Jan 14
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It is truly ironic that some people here have such a problem with people expressing opinions on social media sites about their sadness about a hero's passing.
It is social media! And that is what WHO is. But best stick to talking about Julien Faubert's ankle, hey?
If you don't like other social media posts on a literal billion of topics, don't bother trying to find them!
It's quite simple. We live in a world of information overload. You can just say NO.
(And I realise the irony of posting this.)
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Josh
3:45 Thu Jan 14
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https://twitter.com/eihpospitcher
This.
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Dan M
2:07 Thu Jan 14
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Alan Rickman's just died. This seems the perfect place to say if you're gutted or not.
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Lily Hammer
1:58 Thu Jan 14
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defjam 1:35 Thu Jan 14
Not just bad, but terrible!
Did the old bill steam in with batons? We can't be having that kind of nonsense, in plain view of children and pensioners. Divided and conquered is the order of the day.
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claret on my shirt
1:50 Thu Jan 14
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In life people react differently to everything, you have attention seekers, you have drama queens, people who sulk and the list goes on and on. It would a pretty boring place if we were all the same.
As someone has already said the media love to use whatever they can to get a story or to big up a story. They maybe did 100 interviews and used the 10 that back their view, I expect the drama queens and attention seekers are pretty good at the pretend grieving bit. Those 10 interviews probably help get more viewers or readers
I suppose you also have the choice of watching media shit like this or not, turn to a different channel if you don't like it or maybe just take no notice and concentrate on something that is important!
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BRANDED
1:38 Thu Jan 14
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Fucking terrible
:)
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defjam
1:35 Thu Jan 14
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LH - B
Singing his music.
People of all colours, generations and nationalities.
That's got to be a bad thing right?
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Lily Hammer
1:29 Thu Jan 14
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I didn't see this Brixton thing. Were they mostly gieving and crying etc, or were they mostly celebrating Bowie's life and work, singing and smiling etc?
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BRANDED
1:26 Thu Jan 14
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Maybe not.
But you could do it privately? Most do.
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geoffpikey
1:25 Thu Jan 14
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"it is mostly attention seeking"
No it's not. The media make these happenings "events" and get into people's faces to make it more of an "event". It's regrettable, I know. I work in media.
But genuine people who are just trying to somehow explain/recognise a loss to their own makeup of life and personal passions are not really "attention seeking." Are they?
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BRANDED
1:25 Thu Jan 14
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Well. Yes I guess that is true.
I think Polite's original post was a lot about public grieving for people that they didn't know in a relatively over the top kind of way.
There are lots of instances where there is a roller coater effect of public grief or angst.
As I've already said the reaction to Bowie dying was initially quite a lot of outpouring of grief triggered by some over the top reporting. It becomes a more measured discussion of his achievements slightly later which is a good time to measure a man because unless there are 30 unreleased albums waiting to be released then why not find time to look at what they achieved in their life?
Are you still sad about Bowie or does he fill you full of joy?
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Steve Bacons Lenscap
1:18 Thu Jan 14
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BRANDED
We ought to ban threads for when people die then because bottom line, people are going to share their thoughts/feelings on that person, good or bad, if they feel strongly enough about them. If it's someone they're a fan of those feelings will be amplified.
Let's be honest, anyone who posts on a public forum is seeking a degree of attention whatever the subject, surely?
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BRANDED
1:06 Thu Jan 14
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Ok,
My mistake I thought you were sad and wanted the day over with publicly?
There are many ways to deal with death. One is even to be happy and to celebrate the life of the person who died. Most public grieving does draw attention to the one who is grieving no matter how subtle it is.
I do recognise there are moments when people have to be in public and may have to openly show their grief, like a funeral but otherwise it is mostly attention seeking.
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Steve Bacons Lenscap
1:00 Thu Jan 14
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Reply BRANDED 12:49 Thu Jan 14
I didn't 'grieve" for Bowie, I didn't know him. As others have pointed out, grew up with his music and was sad at his passing. I wouldn't feel the same way about every artist of his stature who died, depends if they meant anything to me. I'm not really sure what your point is but er...yeah.
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geoffpikey
12:57 Thu Jan 14
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Marston Hammer 10:59 Thu Jan 14
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You say, "I wonder what percentage of those moaning on social media about how upset they are could name his last three albums."
That's hardly the point, sir, with respect. People move on: "ordinary" people, artists, sportsmen. I have no real idea what Sir Trevor Brooking does these days, in tangible terms. Doesn't mean I won't be sad when he goes...
Imagine the grieving here on WHO if it happened tomorrow!
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